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你是否遭受过职场冷暴力？
Have u happened to diction-violence in ur working career?

提起职场冷暴力，可能很多人都不知道是什么。但是很多人都在或多或少的遭受着职场冷暴力。

　　据统计，上司身上发生职业冷暴力竟然高达75％，例如你“得罪”了老板，随后被冷落。本该你做的工作，老板安排其他人去做，把你“晾”得压抑而沉闷；或是与部门主管发生矛盾后，主管成心给你安排8小时内做不完的工作量，使你忙得喘不过气来。这些都是职场冷暴力的高发性事件。同事间有“圈”，你因为不屑于入“圈”，始终身单影孤；或是自己某一次的不当举动，成为“公愤型人物”，此后被同事“敬而远之”。

　　你正在遭受职场冷暴力的侵害吗？职场冷暴力给你造成什么样看不见的内伤。

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楼主 Date: 2008-07-15 09:30:27

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沙发 Date: 2008-07-15 09:30:48

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I met this quite often.
It is a common things in the career.
最后由空见大师于 2008-07-15 09:35:11编辑

板凳 Date: 2008-07-15 09:31:05

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你是否遭受过职场冷暴力？
Have u happened to diction-violence in ur working career?

The diction-violence is not want to be encountered by everyone in working career,not only the leader but also the staff, it do not benefit each other.The final goal of a company is most profit,of course,the precondition is the staff is solidarity and struggle together,the diction-violence will effect the work,effect the operate of firm sepuentially .
The diction-violence is a action of collision.I think that if there is a diction-violence in a company ,the one party of the privy C have better depart from there,he also is meaningless stay the firm,he can't obtain the understand and help from other people,his work will operate difficultily,of course ,he did not to rely on in there,he should find a compatible post and work environment.
The diction-violence occured in my company too,there is a leader,everyone dislike he in here,he is selfish and greedy,so the other department does not assist his tast.But the boss like he,I don't know the reason,the boss listen to his suggestion and give him great power,so he do not leave ,he work here all the time.
In our department,the leader don't want to let us rest ,he said that the sells have no rest day,but I sometimes break on weekend,he only chattered in the time of I leave,but he dose not say anying after.so we are still peace,the diction-violence is not occured so far.
最后由 lilyoo1 于 2008-07-15 21:06:51编辑

4 楼 Date: 2008-07-15 09:31:42

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提起职场冷暴力，可能很多人都不知道是什么。但是很多人都在或多或少的遭受着职场冷暴力。

　　据统计，上司身上发生职业冷暴力竟然高达75％，例如你“得罪”了老板，随后被冷落。本该你做的工作，老板安排其他人去做，把你“晾”得压抑而沉闷；或是与部门主管发生矛盾后，主管成心给你安排8小时内做不完的工作量，使你忙得喘不过气来。这些都是职场冷暴力的高发性事件。同事间有“圈”，你因为不屑于入“圈”，始终身单影孤；或是自己某一次的不当举动，成为“公愤型人物”，此后被同事“敬而远之”。

　　你正在遭受职场冷暴力的侵害吗？职场冷暴力给你造成什么样看不见的内伤。

5 楼 Date: 2008-07-15 09:32:51

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厄，我每次都刷首页，今天才知道进来刷更快，风风火火排队后发现，今天的话题～～～～厄，我还没进阶到这个阶段。
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6 楼 Date: 2008-07-15 09:33:31

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Have u happened to diction-violence in ur working career?

The answer is yes without doubt.

I just have worked for one year. But it's really tired for me to do the job. It's unhappy and not easy as I think. But I always have an active attitude towards to the work I do. For the one year, I am cognizant of many things and truth for the relationships with the colleagues.

I have a good temper before work , but now I am not, I always easily get angry for the unfair treatment. I think myself is not a disgusted girl and I have the ability to well done the job. But for me just graduated from college, I only have well theoretics but haven't enough experience for the practice . I think as a leader should take pains to direct the new colleague. But in my company, I find it's contray. Our leader have no time to direct me to do the job. Once I join the company, no one teach me how to do the work and let me only. I had to study it for myself. Sometimes I think I am really a bright girl. haha.

Once I make a mistake or complainted by the client, then I am to blame without any reason. I really don't know what's the problem. To my angry is the unfair, as a new person in our company, the only difference is I have no one to direct and teach me how to do the work, but the other girl is teached by our director. The treatment is very different. I have much work to do and not allow to make a mistake. Otherwise will be to blame. But the other girl is not , the director will "care for" her. And always let me to do the extra work. So angry.

No diction-violence in working.
Treat equally without discrimination.
Take care of the staff's mood and don't put on the airs.
I think director or boss should be so kindly to staff, it can be encourage staff's passion to the work.
Let's make the harmonious relationship between boss and staff.
最后由 randy_ji 于 2008-07-15 11:07:28编辑

7 楼 Date: 2008-07-15 09:34:18

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hehe.I am coming.

8 楼 Date: 2008-07-15 09:34:32

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Yes,I have encounter over

9 楼 Date: 2008-07-15 09:35:04

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never

10 楼 Date: 2008-07-15 09:35:31

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你是否遭受过职场冷暴力？
Have you happened to diction-violence in your working career?
I believe there's diction-violence in anyone's working career. Human is sentient animal not machine, when our header or boss meet unhanppy matter, example they are scolded by their header, or lost a large order, even had a quarrel with their wives at home, we must look out at present, don't offend them to avoid their diction-violence. otherwise we have to coax them, haw-haw,this only a strategy. In fact harmony is essential for a company, any conflict will do negatively to the operation consequence of the firm, it well indirectly affect their work efficiency in the end!
I'd like to tell you a story which happened to me. Several years ago I was recruited to a new company and jioned to the compute department server as software system analyst, there were two manager charged the department but my manager worked in HK headquarter. One day I was called by another manager, he asked me enter his office and site down his opposite, then he began to query my work my private business even my anything, at last he criticize me have offended the discipline, what discipline I have offended? I don't know! I had to obey his abuse for half an hour long, at last he told me I should not wear t-shirt go to work, that's his rule. why didn't tell me ealier? why scolded me as his personal opinions? I didn't know, I only had one thing to do, asking for leave to go home to wear shirt, It's very sad case. My manger was astounded when I told him what happened, it's their manager's competition, why reprimanded me so severely? from then on I didn't pay attention to that manager any more.
最后由 it_leon 于 2008-07-16 23:47:02编辑

11 楼 Date: 2008-07-15 09:36:26

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Have u happened to diction-violence in ur working career?

Diction-violence?! Even in daily life , I have encountered that , I can't fight back, beacause I'm not a good hand at speaking!

12 楼 Date: 2008-07-15 09:50:14

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15 积分给愤怒的小个

你是否遭受过职场冷暴力？
Have u happened to diction-violence in ur working career?

I am not sure I have really understood today's topic now, because I still don't know what 'dicition-violence' is......
When I mention a ' violence accident', it means I am hurted in an unjust treatment.
But the example cases in the today's topic, in my eyes, are very common events and totally not any violence at all.

You get some challenging task assignment, then you regard it as a carrer 'dicition-violence' ?
You get some criticism for your work, then you regard it as a carrer 'dicition-violence' ?
You are not in a group you are interested, then you regard it as a carrer 'dicition-violence' ?

If so, Maybe, How about:
You quarrel with your family, then you regard it as a family 'dicition-violence' ?
You miss a turn of sales promotion, then you regard it as a marketing 'dicition-violence' ?
You don't get satisfaction from your friends, then you regard it as a relationship 'dicition-violence' ?

Then how will you live then?

We can say we have some stress in many things, We feel we are not pleased, even frustrated. it is very common, it's life! So the old saying goes: Failure is the mother of success. And actually I think, if everything goes smoothly, then is there any meaning for you to grow up?

We are always in struggle. I saw a sentence yesterday, I think it's suitable for todays's topic:

'The difference between a man who succeeds and one who does not, lies only in the way each treats opportunities. The successful person always makes adequate perparations to meet opportunities as they duly arrive. The unsuccessful person, on the other hand, works little and just waits to see pass by.'

人，需要有自我调节的素质和乐观精神，比如‘如何成为狮子王’

提个小小的建议，如果可以的话。
我知道每天出题目是个很辛苦的事情。我建议可以参考 facebook的 ithink，它刚好也是每天更新题目的.而且都是很宽泛的题目 :D 也许同步讨论也是个不错的事情。
最后由愤怒的小个于 2008-07-15 19:48:25编辑

13 楼 Date: 2008-07-15 09:52:14

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Up till now, I haven't met it. I also hope I won't meet it in the future.

14 楼 Date: 2008-07-15 09:52:20

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15 积分给renxiaoyao

Have u happened to diction-violence in ur working career?
I am lucky that I haven’t met such diction-violence. Diction violence is a bad behavior which effect many office clerks. In my opinion, diction violence is a kind of revenge and retorsion on purpose. I can’t understand the leaders who lean to such diction violence. An excellent leader should be open-minded, comprehensive, patience, tolerance and good-hearted so that the leader can be welcome and respected by his or her staff. To the contrary, the leader would lose dignity and esteem if he or she revenge his/her own staff by creating difficulties for them. For example, the leader on purpose arranged easy jobs to other colleagues and gave difficult tasks to you in a short time which it’s impossible to achieve for everyone. I hate and despise such leaders who avenge a person in the name of public interests.
Another diction violence is happened on the circle between colleagues. You may have different opinion from your colleagues and you bravely expressed out your personal view which lead to your isolation from other colleagues. I am confused that why the members of the circle of colleagues should isolated the one who reveal their own true idea. There is no reason to isolate them. Everyone has the right of liberty of speech. Another example, you may do a inappropriate deed and you are regretful for what you have done and decide to correct the wrong action. However, you can’t return to the circle anymore because you are the public anger and have been out of the circle. It’s the human nature to make mistakes. The importance is to correct it when you realize it. Therefore, we must give opportunities to the people who would like to rectification themselves. It’s not reasonable to reject and unbelieving them.
To summarize, we should understand and help each other instead of revenge. I believe that our motherland would be stronger and stronger as long as our Chinese be unity to create new epoch.

最后由 renxiaoyao 于 2008-07-15 12:43:33编辑

15 楼 Date: 2008-07-15 09:55:28

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Have u happened to diction-violence in ur working career?

yep.when i was a jackaroo,i always met diction-violence .at fist,i chose to bear it.but with the incresing of my working experience,and i know it is not a best way to choose escape.i need facing and fighting with them,if i try to do it,and i can not change my situation.i will choose to give it up.and then find my next possible!

16 楼 Date: 2008-07-15 09:55:55

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Have you happened diction-violence in your working career?

Everyone in the word would happen diction-violence in his/her career. Why are there so many people career to change their work? I think they not only want to earn much more money or get much more right from company or social organization, but also happen the diction-violence.

Of course in my career, I had happened diction-violence, which is worrisome for me. The main represent is that there haven’t any award including promotion and salary increase even though working hard. What had happened when I recognize this? I feel the work is not suitable for me, and there haven’t any meaning for me to continue this work. So I wanted to change my work. But I thought if I didn’t change this situation in this company, perhaps I would never to change it even in other company. Job-hopping was better after I had changed this situation, I thought. How can do? I had given some report to manger, and to talk with them about my idea about my work. And gave my pinion I want to get the salary increase. After communication, the manager had provided me a suitable promotion and salary increase. Perhaps it wasn’t up to my expectation, but I though these ways was effect. I choice to job-hopping when there was a new chance.

In the complex society life, everyone is to make and happen diction-violence senselessly. So everyone must try his/her best to change this situation. Because you never want to change the society, just to suit it.
diction
最后由 alicewhr1981 于 2008-07-15 13:49:35编辑

17 楼 Date: 2008-07-15 10:02:08

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for my ugly boss, i suffer it everyday.!!!

18 楼 Date: 2008-07-15 10:03:08

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Have u happened to diction-violence in ur working career?

>> I'm not sure about whether i've suffered it or not.
I disputed with my managers and boss for several times on the subjest of the work. After that, they won't ask me to do something to them.
But after it's over, i think it's over, and it's really nothing!
We just have different opinions about the work program and the responsibility.
Well, after days, I found that my boss often put other things for me to do, which i think not in my work range.
I feel angry but also helpless, because he is the boss, i must follow him ! But when it over my tolerance, i will discuss it with them again.
Anyway, if the things don't beyond me so much ,i will follow and do; but once the things provoke me, I will stand ang against about it! It's like a circle for me!

I have to say that: To be a good employee is so hard, so the Boss!

19 楼 Date: 2008-07-15 10:04:53

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It's really tough when it happen to you,i can't find anyway to fix it properly,but to my perspection,i inlline to make up for all the mistake we made,because no pain no gain

20 楼 Date: 2008-07-15 10:12:15

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大欺小,很公道,惹拉老板不死才怪.

21 楼 Date: 2008-07-15 10:12:56