Is it worthiness that marry with a rich old man?
Several months ago, I read an article discussing a moral affair about the divorce in a magazine. Several days ago, when I watched TV on CCTV 12, a program named “Dao De Guan Cha” told an emotional story among a married man, his wife and his lover, normally known as the third party. The scenario of both the article and the program accord with today’s topic quite well, which drives me to reflect on such affair while sighing that too many such phenomena about relationship between people exist in current society. I can not help asking, what the hell is the world going on?
Apparently, the topic is a closed question, whereas I would rather the answer is not a single YES or NO. To be objective, some extra information should be added before we give a righteous solution.
First, we ought to figure out the information about both the personality of the girl and the divorced man. The girl, as described a fresh graduate in the background introduction, does not seem to have many experiences in both the social affairs and personal emotion. No wonder she feels hesitated and lost when the divorced man asks for her marriage. Does she is mentally mature enough to know what a true love is? Meanwhile, the topic has also ignored the girl’s reaction to the man’s pursuit. For what reason she likes/loves the man, or does she accepted the man simply because his care and money? For all of these, we don’t know. On the other hand, what about the man’s information except that he is rich? Which reasons have resulted in his divorce? Whether the primary responsibility of the divorce is due to his profligacy? In my opinion, no matter what is real cause under it, both the man and her wife should be responsible for their separate. This may cause the misfortune of their daughter’s growth.
Second, the girl and the man only get along for several months. It is obviously too early to draw any conclusion. There is only Chinese saying, “To test the endurance of a horse, it requires long distance; to really know a man, it require long period of time.” It would be unfair to negate the man’s true concern to the girl after his unhappy marriage, however, it would be also cursory to conclude the man truly love her. I have many assumptions for the man’s sincere behaviors, for example, he may need some a girl to fulfill his emotion vacancy, he may be attracted merely by the girl’s vigor and beauty, etc. To be on the safe side, a longer period of time is terribly required for the girl to arrive at any further or final decision.
Third, what kind of life does the girl long for? We have no idea of that. If she thinks the essence of life is to work hard. If so, we should congratulate her since she would not be inclined to lose herself when affronting such dilemma. After all, no one can promise another divorce would happen, therefore, for the girl, she should have her own lifestyle, her friends circle. A happy life is far more important than a wealthy life.
Finally, let’s consider the man’s situation since the above discussions is mostly from the girl’s side. It is possible that the man is unfortunate. He maybe a good guy while meeting a bad woman (his extra wife). He cherishes the life especially when he lost it. That is why the man shows his all-heart to the girl. However, is the girl worthy of his true love? After the failed marriage, he should be more mature and think twice before getting married with the girl.
To sum up, it would be hurried if we comment the topic as single YES or No in the absence of some extra important information. Instead, it is safe and necessary for both the girl and the man to test each other through longer contact. They need serious consideration, after all the marriage itself is a divine affair. Well, I would like to end this article with a motto I like,
HASTE MAKES WASTE.
最后由 我赛赛 于 2008-08-28 11:24:14编辑 |
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