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当更适合的伴侣出现，你会何如选择……
How will you choose when you meet a person who is more suitable to you?

拥有一段稳定的伴侣关系，却又发现了更适合自己的，这是我们的两性关系经常要面临的一个挑战。这其中，最困难的是更适合的伴侣出现之后——对更好的一款汽车或一栋大房子，我们基本上总是因为选择“更好的”而兴奋和满足；而两性关系中，对于“更好的”，选择总是更复杂，结果也总是更复杂。
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33岁的女记者马丽，陷入一场情感困局——在还算美满的婚姻之外，遇到一个她认为与自己的灵魂更匹配的人。
马丽想起刚入行时，一位老记者说，女记者关系容易破裂，因为天天采访成功人士，都比自己的老公优秀，自己的老公很难再保持吸引力。马丽后来了解到，这位前辈离婚两次，原因都是出现了“更适合”自己的伴侣。马丽很困扰：如果遇见了更好的，为什么又分开呢？

　 “自由选择”是当代的金科玉律，适用于挑选学校、恋人、新鞋子甚至这世上的一切东西。但是太多的选择非但没能给我们自由，反成一种禁锢。为何多即是少？在更多选择面前，你会如何决策？

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楼主 Date: 2008-09-18 09:30:24

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How will you choose when you meet a person who is more suitable to you?
The more material thing isn't stand for more suitable to sb.
Character and love is more important.
Money is endless.
最后由 Kaycee 于 2008-09-18 09:38:40编辑

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oh,no, my sofa ,
how could this happen?
最后由 Areschan 于 2008-09-18 09:31:47编辑

板凳 Date: 2008-09-18 09:30:45

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How will you choose when you meet a person who is more suitable to you?
If I meet a person who is more suitable to me, I would make a friend with him.
First I think the money or the superiority of substance is not the most important thing for us to choose the coachfellow. But this is only my opinion, not all the people think so. Just like parents, they want their children to have a superior marriage, maybe the first one to think is the money or the house and so on. Of course, this idea is not wrong. I put the sensation on the first floor, that not means I don't mind the others. But I don't agree on marriage with the money. It's really terrible. In many teleplay or in the really life, we can easily see some failing marriage, just for the money and no sensation.
Anyway, If my boyfriend is not wealth but have a progressing heart and treat with wholehearted, I think I would stick to our words and this sensation even one day a excellent man appeard.
最后由 randy_ji 于 2008-09-19 09:35:18编辑

4 楼 Date: 2008-09-18 09:30:53

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当更适合的伴侣出现，你会何如选择……
How will you choose when you meet a person who is more suitable to you?

There are many choices we have to make through our life, different decision brings different result, perhaps it means success or failure, Choice is a headachy thing, a lot of people hate to choose, they want to gain but fear to lose, there is an old saying: Look before you leap, yes, that's right, sometimes choice isn't a simple action, it bears more responsibility, more expectation, more pursuit.

Choosing itself is a hard thing, if we oblige to put it in the human relationship, I think it's a little bitter, but the life or even the society is like this, we make decisions all the time, then we become accustomed, someone said, the essential relationship among people is interest, we are greedy and often aren't contented with what we own, better life is everyone's goal, a lot of people are working for it, when get what we want, we are unsatisfied again, in this process we gain ,we lose, no ending., human being is an odd colony.

And the present society is full of lure, there are really more outstanding persons, we may lose ourselves, we often image if i am with him, the life will be much more colorful, according to a survey, the person who's liable to change minds is not stable, they're always finding fresh, however, the ending is he tired, he doesn't want to change anymore, and the persons who ever loved him have gone away, leaving regretting.Since the results we can predict, why do many people want to try, we always demand our partner to be honest, it's funny, what about yourself, do any self-reflection? So, let's no more sway, cherish the one who are with you, believe he/she is your right man.

I meet many men who are more excellent than my BF, I always look them with admiration, I know that's not belong to me, I have own one, that's enough, and i never complain my bf, i know he is trying, he is best in my eyes, me too. The god is fair, everyone feel contented, the world is peaceful, A CONTENTED MIND IS A PERPETUAL FEAST.

Why can't i change the szie of font ?

It's a little small

最后由小王贵于 2008-09-18 13:54:49编辑

5 楼 Date: 2008-09-18 09:31:41

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当更适合的伴侣出现，你会何如选择……

How will you choose when you meet a person who is more suitable to you?

There are many choices we have to make through our life, different decision brings different result, perhaps it means success or failure, Choice is a headachy thing, a lot of people hate to choose, they want to gain but fear to lose, there is an old saying: Look before you leap, yes, that's right, sometimes choice isn't a simple action, it bears more responsibility, more expectation, more pursuit .

WhenI meet a person who seems more suitable to me,I will choose the one I love the most,and he who loves me the most too.

once I choose,I will never change my choice.

wen jun(文俊) and I were together with each other for nearly two years. and we love each other, without a doubt, thouth we qurrelled for times,but soon we got to become reconciled as before.

the other day,some one  made  an introduction for me when l was not awared.,and the other side is a teacher.

I met him with surprise and ignorance. without a word,so did he. slight smile on his face and  he  blushed,so did I.

while he is a  handsome,and  dainty  gentleman,if I have not got bf,I will choose him certainly, but I have one, though he is more suitable to me , I will not choose him either.

for I love my bf,and I could not betray him.

once I choose him, and he is my mr right,my exclusive Mr right.I know it is too hard to find a person who loves me very much,and he who is my best-loved. so I did not choose the one who is more suitable to me,but the one who loves me best.

the one who is more suitable to me,maybe  he is not  really suitable,who knows. maybe he is not so good as the one before.

Rafael Ortiz had said this before: Love is not finding someone to live with;It's finding someone you can't live without. and I think Wen jun is this some one.
I only want to love someone with all my heart and all my mind...
To love someone and be loved back, it's everything.

当更适合的伴侣出现，你会何如选择……

在我们的生活中有很多的选择，不同的选择会导致不同的结果，就像赌注，有成功和失败。选择往往是一件令人头痛的事，很多人都讨厌选择。他们都想得到但是却害怕失去，古人云：三思而后行，是啊，说得对极了。有时选择不仅仅是一个简单的行为，而是要在承受着更多的责任，期待和追求。
当更适合的伴侣出现,我的选择是我最爱和最爱我的他。
一旦我决定了，我就不会随意改变我的决定。
我和文俊在一起已经差不多两年了，毫无疑问，我们彼此相爱。虽然有时也会有小吵小闹，但是没多久我们很快会和好如初。
前些天，有一个人在我不知情的情况下给我作了介绍。对方是个老师。
我也在不知情情况下看到了他，我和他都没有说一句话，他只是面带微笑，脸也红了，我的脸也红了。
虽然他也长得很英俊，是个很讲究的男人，如果我没有男朋友，我当然会选他，但是我已经有了，虽然他可能会更加适合我，我同样不会选他。
因为我非常爱我的男朋友，而我也不想背叛他。
一旦我爱上他，选择了他，他就是我生命中的白马王子, 我唯一的白马王子。我知道要找一个我爱的人并且爱我的人是很难的，因此我不能放弃他，而去选择一个看似更加适合我的男人。
更适合我的伴侣，可能也不是真的适合我，谁知道呢？？可能他还不如我的男朋友呢。
欧提兹曾说过，爱情不是找个人一块生活,而是找那个生活中离不开的人. 我想文俊就是他说的那个人了吧。
我只是想全心合意的去爱一个人…
爱一个人同时也被爱，这就足够了。

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6 楼 Date: 2008-09-18 09:32:13

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I think I will not change my mind

7 楼 Date: 2008-09-18 09:32:46

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当更适合的伴侣出现，你会何如选择……
How will you choose when you meet a person who is more suitable to you?
－－多即是少．＂自由选择＂是当代金科玉律．适用于挑选学校，恋人，新鞋子甚至这世上的一切东西．但太多的选择非但没能给我们自由，反成一种禁锢．．．
－－Too much equates less. "Choose freely" is the basic principle today. It is fitful for you choosing university, lover, a new pair of shoes and even everything in the world. However,instead of getting freedom from various choices,we are tracked in them ...

This is an intereting topic as well as a serious issue which calls our attention. Look at the society and the people around us, we will find they have all changed so much. First, divorce is never a huge issue to people anymore. Just two months ago, one couple of my neighbours got divorce just after they getting married for one month. I don't know the exact reason, but their attitude to marriage shows us everyting.  Second, although someone won't choose divorce, they are also not loyal to their wives or husbands. I believe this kink of news is no longer fresh.
这不仅是一个有趣的话题，更是一个需要我们注意的严肃的热点问题．看看我们的社会和我们周围的人们，我们会发现他们都已改变很大．首先，离婚再也不是什么特大新闻．  就在两个月前，我邻居有一对刚结婚一个月的夫妇离婚了．我不清楚他们离婚的具体原因，但从他们对待婚姻的态度我们就略见一斑了．其次，虽然有些人不会选择离婚，但他们对自己的伴侣也不再忠诚．我相信这样的新闻大家也不会觉得新鲜了．
One of the greatest writers once said:"There are not two completely same leaves in the world" (sorry,I forget how to say it exactly ). So we can imagine how many kinds of people in the world. Not in the world, we all know how many people just in China. And of course we can meet lots of excellent ones. But how could you be sure that this one is better and more fitful than the one you already "have"? I suppose this is just one of the weakness of people which goes like this: the one you cannot get is always the best one.
一位作家曾经说过：＂世界上没有两片完全相同的叶子＂（抱歉，准确的说法记不清了）．所以我们可以想象世界上会有多少种不同的人了．不说全世界，就中国而言大家都知道中国有多少人口吧．理所当然地我们会见到很多优秀的人．可是你怎么就确定这一个就比你已拥有的那个更好更适合你呢？我想这正是人们的弱点之一：得不到的永远是最好的．
To choose a lover to get married is never a easy job for us. Especially in nowadays, cars and houses are becoming more important to so many girls. More and more girls are very practical when they decide to get married. If girls choosing partners only depend on the boys' money, the marriage will never be stable. Of course this is a facter we should consider, But I don't think it is the most important one. The one who understand and can communicate with me is a better choice for me. Not only he will be my life partner, but also a spirit partner.
选择一个伴侣结婚从来都不是一件容易的事．特别是现在，汽车和房子对很多女孩来说已越来越重要．越来越多的女孩决定结婚时变地很实际．但如果女孩只依据钱来选择结婚伴侣的话那我想婚姻不会长久．当然，这也是我们需要考虑的因素之一．但我想这并不是最重要的因素．那个人能理解我能与我沟通交流才好．对我来说他不应仅是一个生活上的伴侣，更是一个精神伴侣．
Once getting married, don't say "goodbye" in a hurry. Marriage is not just showed the world that you two are loving each other very much. It's also a kind of responsibility. Several years even several decades later,it's impossable to keep the passion. One philosopher once said : At this period of time, you two are more like a couple of  relatives . Just not be too greedy although the world out of the familly is quit colorful. Because then the curiosity will turn into selfish.
一旦结婚了就不要轻言再见．婚姻不仅是向世界表明你们的爱，它更是一种责任．几年后或几十年后它不可能永远保持那份激情．一位哲人曾说：到时你们就更像是亲人了．也不要太贪婪了，即使家以外的世界很多彩．因为那份好奇心会变成我们的自私．

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8 楼 Date: 2008-09-18 09:34:18

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我的看法是，
我始终比赞同的是从一而终
尽管与这个社会的现实不太符合
或者太天真
而感情缺乏的其实就是执着和忠诚
当然是忠于同样执着和忠于自己的感情。

9 楼 Date: 2008-09-18 09:35:21

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How will you choo se when you meet a person who is more suitable to you?

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11 楼 Date: 2008-09-18 09:36:13

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Morning all!
Three passions, simple but overwhelmingly strong, have governed my life: the longing for love, the search for knowledge, and the unbearable pity for the suffering of mankind.

12 楼 Date: 2008-09-18 09:36:25

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其实与自己可以过一辈子的另一半应该大约有几万人，只不过是你先和哪一个相遇就先跟谁在一起咯，既然选择了就不要总是认为比他还有更好的，每一个人都不是十全十美的。

13 楼 Date: 2008-09-18 09:36:34

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我的看法是，
我始终比较赞同的是从一而终
尽管与这个社会的现实不太符合
或者是太天真
而感情缺乏的其实就是执着和忠诚
当然是忠于同样执着和忠于自己的感情。

14 楼 Date: 2008-09-18 09:36:53

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How will you choose when you meet a person who is more suitable to you?

There are many coincidences in one’s life, among which love and marrige could be regarded as the most incredible but marvelous one. When a man meets a woman at the right time and in the right place, they two could fall in love and finally get married. I call it pure coincidence because if time and place changed, he/she must encounter another woman or man and then the story will be totally different.

Marriage is somewhat like a journey to the scheduled destination. Our mates are the train that carry us to the goal. When people get on the train at the origin stop, almost no one has thought that he/she will get off the train in the middle of journey. But sometimes the scenery outside the window is beautiful beyond expectation. Then what will he/she do when facing the big temptation? Well, some impetuous people may forgot the original destination and jump off the train to pursue the beautiful views. Then two results are waiting for him/her in front. First,when he/she get close to the beautiful views, they turn out to be just so-so.The novelty soon wore off, suddenly he remember the original destination again, but surely the train has left and only leave him/her alone to repent what he/she has done. Second, the scenery is so attractive that he/she decide to change his/her mind and even totally give up the former plan. So it seems to be a gamble, no one knows whether he/she could be a winner or a loser before he/she step out of the train. Thus some people are more prudent. They only enjoy the scenery faraway, and they may even admire that but will never waiver in his faith to arrive at the former goal. I perceive the latter type are the real wise ones.

So suitable or not, it is just a relative concept. The one suits you today may become a nightmare tomorrow. Nothing can be invariable all the time. At least our mates are the ones suit us best during a special period. So trust the so-called destiny and stick to the end. Yes, as time goes by, the passion of love may begin to fade away, but it must have been sublimated into more durable affection. The external lure are ornaments at best, w/o which we could also live well; but our mates are just part of ouselves, without whom we will become disabled. Therefore, cherish the first Mr. Right that god sent to your side, never say goodbye in haste.

最后由微笑的叶子于 2008-09-18 22:07:11编辑

15 楼 Date: 2008-09-18 09:39:24

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.Happiness lies in contentment.
知足常乐，一山还有一山高。所谓的更适合，只是现在觉得更适合，时间一久，或许就会觉得也不过如此，于是乎，又寻找下一个更适合。

16 楼 Date: 2008-09-18 09:39:51

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引用Areschan于2008-09-18 09:30发表的文章:
oh,no, my sofa ,
how could this happen?
最后由 Areschan 于 2008-09-18 09:31:47编辑

I must say sorry to you.

17 楼 Date: 2008-09-18 09:40:59

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How will you choose when you meet a person who is more suitable to you?

this could not happen. at least the one who seems more suitable is late to appear, he is not suitalbe in time.

18 楼 Date: 2008-09-18 09:47:05

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How will you choose when you meet a person who is more suitable to you?
I can't change my mind.
＂人外有人，天外有天＂人处在不同环境里所遇到的，认识的，相处的人都不是同的．如果自己的生活、工作环境不断地变化，都会接触到形形色色的人，也许是一个比一个更优秀的．但自己已经是个已婚人士，就算是对方更适合你，你们更好相处，我觉得都不应该去做新的选择。毕尽我们都是成年人，我们要对我们自己的行为负责。
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19 楼 Date: 2008-09-18 09:49:21

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什么叫作更合适的？

20 楼 Date: 2008-09-18 09:51:26

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当更适合的伴侣出现，你会何如选择……
How will you choose when you meet a person who is more suitable to you?

I don't want to change my mind even the person is the best one.For I only know the surface about the man not the everything about him.Maybe he has a ignominious aspect I don't know.I believe that the best one is the man I choose in the first time.

21 楼 Date: 2008-09-18 09:52:47