主题：【每日互动话题】当更适合的伴侣出现，你会如何选择？（第418期）

then choose the one more suitable?

糟糠之妻不可弃。

no more suitable one ,only when we found he is not suitable to us any more ,we need to search the new suitable one......

Love needs firmness

feel  can not last for ever!

当更适合的伴侣出现，你会何如选择……
How will you choose when you meet a person who is more suitable to you?
In diffrent phase ,you have different requirement.
if  someone as your partner can't keep up with you ,you will  
find another to fit your requirement.
if you can't make progress together ,she(he) will leave you ,or
you will leave her (him).it is certain.
so please think over when you meet a person who is more suitable to you.
everything is opposite.

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爱的感觉，总是在一开始觉得很甜蜜，总觉得多一个人陪、多一个人帮你分担，你终於不再孤单了，至少有一个人想著你、恋著你，不论做什么事情，只要能一起，就是好的，但是慢慢的，随著彼此的认识愈深，你开始发现了对方的缺点，於是问题一个接著一个发生，你开始烦、累，甚至想要逃避，有人说爱情就像在捡石头，总想捡到一个适合自己的，但是你又如何知道什么时候能够捡到呢？
*她适合你，那你又适合她吗?
其实，爱情就像磨石子一样，或许刚捡到的时候，你不是那么的满意，但是记住人是有弹性的，很多事情是可以改变的，只要你有心、有勇气，与其到处去捡未知的石头，还不如好好的将自己已经拥有的石头磨亮磨，你开始磨了吗？很多人以为是因为感情淡了，所以人才会变得懒惰。错！其实是人先被惰性征服，所以感情才会变淡的。
       *在某个聚餐的场合，有人提议多吃点虾子对身体好，这时候有个中年男人忽然说「十年前，当我老婆还是我的女朋友的时候，她说要吃十只虾，我就剥二十只给她！现在，如果她要我帮她剥虾壳，开玩笑！我连帮她脱衣服都没兴趣了，还剥虾壳咧！
      

*听到了吗？明白了吗？难怪越来越多人只想要谈一辈子的恋爱，却迟迟不肯走入婚姻。因为，婚姻容易让人变得懒惰。如果每个人都懒得讲话、懒得倾听、懒得制造惊喜、懒得温柔体贴，那么夫妻或是情人之间，又怎么会不渐行渐远渐无声呢？所以请记住：有活力的爱情，是需要适度殷勤灌溉的，谈恋爱，更是不可以偷懒的喔！

*有一对情侣，相约下班後去用餐、逛街，可是女孩因为公司会议而延误了，当她冒著雨赶到的时候已经迟到了30多分钟，他的男朋友很不高兴的说：你每次都这样，现在我甚么心情也没了，我以後再也不会等你了！刹那间，女孩终於决堤崩溃了，她心里在想：或许，他们再也没有未来了
   *同样的在同一个地点，另一对情侣也面临同样的处境；女孩赶到的时候也迟到了半个钟头，他的男朋友说：我想你一定忙坏了吧！接著他为女孩拭去脸上的雨水，并且脱去外套盖在女孩身上，此刻，女孩流泪了但是流过她脸颊的泪却是温馨的。你体会到了吗？
   *其实爱、恨往往只是在我们的一念之间！爱不仅要懂得宽容更要及时，很多事可能只是在於你心境的转变罢了！懂了吗？当有个人爱上你，而你也觉得他不错。那并不代表你会选择他。
       *我们总说：我要找一个你很爱很爱的人，才会谈恋爱。但是当对方问你，怎样才算是很爱很爱的时候，你可能无法回答他，因为你自己也不知道。

*没错，我们总是以为，我们会找到一个自己很爱很爱的人。可是後来，当我们猛然回首，我们才会发觉自己曾经多么天真。假如从来没有开始，你怎么知道自己会不会很爱很爱那个人呢？其实，很爱很爱的感觉，是要在一起经历了许多事情之後才会发现的。或许每个人都希望能够找到自己心目中百分之百的伴侣，但是你有没有想过在你身边会不会早已经有人默默对你付出很久了，只是你没发觉而已呢？所以，还是仔细看看身边的人吧！他或许已经等你很久喽！
      *当你爱一个人的时候，爱到八分绝对刚刚好。所有的期待和希望都只有七八分；剩下两三分用来爱自己。
      如果你还继续爱得更多，很可能会给对方沉重的压力，让彼此喘不过气来，完全丧失了爱情的乐趣。
      *所以请记住，喝酒不要超过六分醉，吃饭不要超过七分饱，爱一个人不要超过八分
       *那天朋友问我：到底该怎么做才算是爱一个人呢？我笑著跟他说：其实每个人的爱情观都不一样，说对了叫开导，但就怕说错反倒变成误导。那就糟糕了！
      *如果你也正在为爱迷惘，或许下面这段话可以给你一些启示：爱一个人，要了解，也要开解；要道歉，也要道谢；要认错，也要改错；要体贴，也要体谅；是接受，而不是忍受；是宽容，而不是纵容；是支持，而不是支配；是慰问，而不是质问；是倾诉，而不是控诉；是难忘，而不是遗忘；是彼此交流，而不是凡事交代；是为对方默默祈求，而不是向对方诸多要求；可以浪漫，但不要浪费；可以随时牵手，但不要随便分手。

最后由 Annastudy 于 2008-09-18 10:07:28编辑

we can choose when we don't have life partners. but if we already have one, we have lost the right to choose anymore. One should be loyal to his present partner, otherwise it could be a traditional moral problem. We all lack sense of security in our affections, and this changing will get less understanding. who can bear to be the deserted one, to be betrayed by his beloved?
it's wise of everyone not to change his mind when he meets someone who seems more suitable. you must feel sure about the feeling when you choose your present one, but now there is another guy who seems more suitable, maybe if you choose this guy, you will one day fine another more suitalbe, so can we always change our minds? of course not, sometimes we should sacrifice our good feelings to others so as to protect our own faith that love is permanent, to protect our own sense of security, to make sure that we are the reliable people.
i don't mean that we should be stickened to our partners in regardless of any disadvantage. you can choose to break up if you find that you two don't match at all, you just have found that you two have made a mistake to be together. this could be reasonable, but it's not a good excuse to give up your partner just because of another better one.

有机会选择就选好的~

没有最合适的，只有更合适的。
如果每遇到一个更合适都要重新选择的话，我不欣赏这样的人。
如果真的遇到了那也是有缘无份。
A sad thing in life is when you meet someone who means a lot to you，only to find out in the end that it was never meant to be and you just have to let go.

Yes,I more agree to dollydu's opinion.

when I have enough money,I will choose the one who moves me a lot.The one I love very much whoever him is.
But when even I did not have the money to feed up myself,I would like to choose the person who is with more money.
Because living is the most important,without live,I can do nothing.
生命都没了,还谈什么爱不爱呢?

就是比现有的各方面更好一点

How will you choose when you meet a person who is more suitable to you?
我想应该换位思考一下，体会一下对方的感受，再做决定。已所不欲，勿施于人。

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That means you are greedy if you still keep doing so,when can you rest for a life-long time? Using life-long time to find endless soul mates?? Then what is the result?
The bond of love can be developped to solid relationship of "亲情", can you apart from your family member in a such a easy way?