婆媳，永远的冤家？
Are the forever foe of mother-in -law and daughter-in-law?
It’s a hot topic, some people suspect the answers, that’s because they are in hope of the relationship could be ameliorated, but from the present situations, few people can handle it perfectly. I’m not married, but I experienced the circumstances between the mother-in -law and daughter-in-law, I will try my best to describe it impersonally.
I have a brother who is very dutiful to parents, before he married with his girlfriend (Emily), my mother didn’t satisfied with Emily, though she behaved well, mum thought she wasn’t tall or beautiful, in a word, she didn’t approve of their marriage, i thought Emily was good, whatever her temper or personality, a gentle girl in my eyes, I persuaded mom to accept her, through our try mum was reluctant to agree. After the marriage, they didn’t live with us, came back to see us casually, all seem be harmonious, a few years later, they had a baby, mum had to take care of it, they lived together, along with conflicts, one time mum called to me, she cried, I was very sad and asked what happened, mother told me the whole story, I knew she was very toilsome to look after the baby, but Emily never considered mother, she was too lazy, I had no idea, I planned to call brother to explain, but I didn’t do that at last, I can understand brother’s difficulty, maybe Emily changed, she doesn’t behave well as before, it’s hard to say, anyway, I love my mum deeply, I don’t allow anyone to hurt her, that’s my brother’s family issue.
Why mother-in-law and daughter-in-law become foes? There is gulf between them, not because the same man, they are the stranger in the world, now they become the family, live together, they may have different living habit, it needs a long time to familiar with each other, Mother-in-law may think there is another woman who will share with his only son, she is just unbalanced psychologically, in the same way, the daughter-in-law think the mother-in-law never brings her up, why should she treat her as her own mother. Things just begin like this, conflicts upgrade, sometimes it’s worse.
For me, I always speak to my bf, the relationship between your mother and me depends on you, haha, man really bear more pressure in this relationship, we love him, should love his family, it’s his mother bringing him up, we should appreciated her, the great mother, I think as long as you treat her well, she will love you as her daughter, I really hope so. I have confidence in myself.
最后由 小王贵 于 2008-09-26 18:19:34编辑 |
