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婚姻是围城？是坟墓？还是爱的源泉？
i think marriage is the source of love~

婚姻是围城？是坟墓？还是爱的源泉？　

I think the latter!!!

"Remember that a successful marriage depends on two things: finding the right person and being the right person". Do we really know the actual definition of a successful marriage? If not than lets look for it and see what conclusion we can draw. We often say that someone somewhere is made for you and the day you come across that person you feel that that he or she is the one you have been waiting for. But later we see that due to lack of understanding and mental compatibility they move apart. So how can we say that they were the perfect match since they didn't gave any effort to understand each other. So it's important you know your partner. There are people who get physically attracted and fall for each other and eventually end up getting married. But later on when they see their wavelength not matching they easily get separated without a second thought. In today's generation we see these incidents more compare to earlier generation. And this is more due to the changing social scenario. With so many things to divert your attention you really don't know what to do.

What is marriaht???
U may have the question above.and is it means love fortress, love terminator or true love engine?

Marriage is not just coming together of two individuals. There is much more to it. To sustain a marriage it is important that there is effort from both sides than only a marriage can carry on. A successful marriage is like a good recipe whose main ingredients are love, commitment, understanding, concern and togetherness. If you can include these aspects in your married life you can find happiness in your marriage. Andre Maurois once aptly said, "A happy marriage is a long conversation which always seems too short." It is true. When we talk about mental compatibility between husband and wife we have seen that not only incase of arrange marriage this problem exist where both of them were unknown to each other before marriage but even after many years of courtship in love marriages this problem exist because when we meet before marriage we are at our best to impress the other person. And we start accepting each other the way we like to see each other. But gradually after marriage when we slip into our natural self that time we have to accept each other as we are. And in most of the cases the real self is not what we wanted to see and then begins the contradiction with the person whom we have loved and with whom I have to spend my life. So it's important that when you love a person love him or her the way he or she is and not the way you want him or her to be. Thus you can be happy.

A happy married life calls for constant commitment and concern for each other. There are few small and minute aspects, which we tend to forget in our married life, as we get busy with the daily chores. So at times it is important to indulge in those minute details of a married life, which will constantly remind each other of the love and concern being present. We can conclude by the quote of Barnett Brickner, which says it, all that "Success in marriage does not come merely through finding the right mate, but through being the right mate."

So if u meet the right person,and u r the right person, u can be happy in ur marriage life! and it will be the source of love！

最后由 文俊５２１ 于 2008-09-28 10:11:40编辑

最后由 文俊５２１ 于 2008-09-28 14:38:02编辑

这几期的怎么总是推迟？？？？

is t=it grave or encircle  of love city ?
is it the source of love?
have no idea

is that so ?

It's the grave of love.
But it's the source of duty.

luxury line of goods

If the guy who is unhappy after he got married, he may say marriage is tomb. If the guy who is happy after he got married, he may say marraige is the source of love. If you ask me whether what is my oppion of the marriage, i can give you different answers in different time. It is because i will have different feeling in different time. In a contrary manner or direction, we can conclude if the guy say marriage is tomb, the guy may have unhappy marriage. if the guy say marriage is the soure of love, the guy may have happy marriage. I think some of you may ever heard of this. Marriage is the tomb of the love. However I want to tell you if there is no marriage to be the tomb of the love, the love will have no its end

Anyway,I long for it .
It must be based on love  ,so even it is the brave of love,I have to try .......

If  marriage  is tomb, I want have a  funeral

婚姻是围城？是坟墓？还是爱的源泉？　
Marriage: love fortress, love terminator or true love engine?
I think maybe I hope it is the true love engine.

婚姻是爱情的坟墓，但是没有婚姻，爱情就死无葬身之地。
最后由 fenglingcao 于 2008-09-28 10:38:37编辑

婚姻对我来说好像很遥远，

i prefer to marriage is love fortress. if i promise to marry sb, that 's because i believe he is the one i 'd like to live together for my whole life, it is nothing to do with money, title.

婚姻是围城？是坟墓？还是爱的源泉？　
Marriage: love fortress, love terminator or true love engine?
我觉得三者兼有．首先是爱的源泉，两个人相受了，最终走上婚姻的殿堂．而这时是两个人在一起生活了，也许还会和公公婆婆婆一起生活．这样平时的那种自由自在，无拘无束的生活就结束了，像被围在围城里．而当你在这围城里生儿育女的，在也没有自己的空间了．慢慢地变成了没有自己了，所以像变成了坟墓啦．

婚姻，各人的感受不同。少有最爱

The best and most beautiful things in the world can't be seen or even touched. They must be felt with the heart.
      You've been in love,you know what it's like.It's a sense of delight,not just in the person you love,but in all people,in yourself,in life.So marriage is a person who stay with you all the time,in our lives husband always take care of you,whenever we need.I think marriage is a happiness and it make our felt strong,generous,fully alive.