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哪一种“分手理由”是你最无法接受的？
What kind of ‘break up reason’ is most unacceptable for you?

The most unacceptable reason for me is to vanish without a word left.I always think it is normal to break up with your lover.We are still good friends after breaking up.Choosing lover maybe is a little similar to buy clothes.Sometimes we find  the chothes are beautiful on the models ,but when we put them on ,they are  not as beautiful as on the models.So shops permit to try them on without any extra expense.It is the same to choosing lover.When we look at him/her at a long distance,we are surprised by his/her charming appearance,gentle behavior,excellent ability.But when we walk closely to him/her,we feel so disappointed.Maybe someone will regret to do that kind of thing.Their dreams disappear.

If you have to part with you lover,you had better choose the right way to express your thought.You should not hurt the person so much.Because he/she have ever loved you and taken care of you.You own a wonderful time with him/her.If you are a real man /woman,you do not want to harm your former lover.Life is so long and so tough.It is important to find a suitable lover,and love each other deeply.A true lover can help you progress in your career,and overcome difficulties in the life.She /he can make you life so colourful.But if you find the wrong lover,quarrels usually happen in your family.You will dislike coming home.It is also uncomfortable to watch your parter in front of you.

Life is so short that we should enjoy the life to full.If you really can not change the bad state between you and your lover.You have the right to end .But you must be cool,and explain to your lover why you have to choose to break up with him/her.End is good for us.You can find the most suitable person to you .The worst way to break up i believe is to leave without a word.You can not find him/her everywhere.This indeed makes you confused .You do not know weather he encounters accidents ,and can not keep in touch with you ,or you made a wrong thing he wanted to punish you in this way.You also do not know weather he is worth to be waited for.

Escape can not solve any problems perfectly.The only effect is to make the things worse.So if you have made up your mind to break up with your lover.Walk bravely to his/her side,and say" i want to break up with you",because.........If the things you said is reasonable,he/she will cosider thoughtfully ,and gave your a answer.


最后由 lalalala_____ 于 2008-12-03 11:28:03编辑

morning,
break up reason........
Most unacceptable “break up reason”,Let me discuss the following some reasons.
I comment on reasons by 5 stars.More stars,More unacceptable.

1. ★★★★You are too perfect to give me burden,I like freedom. Firstly ,I’m very ashamed of use this reasons many times in colleague.Althong not break up reasons, that is reject reasons. I don’t know if they must be feel angry. Now I’m thinking about it and feel very badly.Your lover very angry with it.

2. ★★★Face reality,we have gratuated.Regardlss of how you are love each other in collegue, But from school to society ,two worlds change must be bring some huge changes,maybe your lover succumbed to reality ,we face work, money , house, car and so on .Maybe you must be grieft for it, but,it’s will be help to your maturate,you will be accept it at last.

3. ★★To be certified as incurable diseases. You was surprised when listening to this news from your lover, and can’t believe it. But at last you must be know the fact, and maybe you will fell grief,tell him/her ,it’s no need. two stars

4. ★★★Love someone else.Thanks your honest and tell me this news. The reasons is very good at break up. More love,more grief. Three stars

5. ★Incompatible in disposition.It will be a normal reason ,and you two will be feel about it. That indeed a reasons to break up.
6. ★★Parents oppose.Love is relation with parents,when parents oppose that,it will be a trouble. Although you are very strive to gain support,but you are also be defeated by parents. So,give up it ,parents always are key of your hapiness.


让我来谈谈以下几种理由，来看看哪个会是最不能接受的，5颗星星作为标准，星星越多，代表越不能接受。
1 你太好，让我有负担，我喜欢自由。首先，我很惭愧，这个理由是我大学里多次使用的理由，尽管是当做拒绝理由，但是回想起来，这个理由真的很差劲，真的是让人想起就生气的理由。
2 面对现实吧，我们已经毕业了。不管你们在学校的时候多么相爱，从学校到社会，两个世界的跨越，任何改变都可能发生，要面对工作，钱，房子，车子等等，也许你的爱人就屈服于现实，不要难过，你最终会接受，这个理由让你变得成熟。
3 我得了绝症。尽管你听到这个消息感到惊讶，不能判定是否真的，但是最终你会知道真相，真的很无聊的理由，没有必要吧。
4 爱上别人。首先要感谢她或他的诚实告诉你，这个理由对于分手来说是非常有效的，但是对于你来说，爱的越深，越痛啊。
5 性格不合。这个理由一般你不会反对，两个人的问题，你能感觉的到，分手顺理成章。
6 父母反对。爱情从来都不是两个人的事情，父母的反对真是一个大麻烦。你努力去赢得认同，还是失败。那么放弃吧，一个人还坚持什么呢，父母毕竟是以后大家幸福的关键啊。
最后由 zora_yang 于 2008-12-04 05:17:44编辑

Morning everybody.Hope everyone has a nice day!
     Today i am earlier than yesterday,right?My feeling is not good either,i spit out when i eat a medicine.I hate medicine,because i am afraid of bitter,that i cant pharynx them.I felt very sorry to waste money,2yuan.But my cold is not ok,i need eat medicines,it's bored.
     Ok,my complait is over,let's begin our today's topic."What kind of "break up reason"is most unacceptable for you?"Maybe this topic is very exciting.It's useful for everyone,yes?In my opinion,the reason of break up is unacceptable,we cant say what kind of them.The break up feeling is bad for girls or boys.But we need to deal with them very well.Because we face to many troubles about our love and we cant talk carefully the reason if we break up .Do you have this experience?Of course yes.
    In teleplays or films, we can find kinds of reason for lovers break up reason.For example,we have not same character,i hope you can find a better than me or a best whom take good care of you,and or has no news about her or him......Those are reasons,they can help us leave worried or unhappy,right?In this realistic life,we usually find the really reason of break up is love other else.For lovers,for families,the third one is rifely.
    I remembered that when i have not meet my boyfriend,he lost for long times.I couldnt find him or get him any news,no calls,no letters,just missed from his.I knew i am failed.But he didnt tell me anything,untill he appearance again.Then he told me: i am afraid to trouble you and i cant give you happy life or future.I though that was a stupid reason,right?I think if you love one ,you will give her or his true warmly love ,happy,mind try you best.Yes.If you know have today,why not do that before?So he was moved by my heart.In my opinion,if for everyone everygirl will say like that,that feeling from heart.
    Keep a secret  for me,everybody.I have a classmate since i was a student in junior high school.He liked me and i had a little feeling about him but we all didnt say about this thing,untill when we got in college,we were not a same school,but he still like me.But we have not same mind ,and we will have not future,because we several years not to see.When he said: can you marry me? I said:i am sorry,maybe i cant,i have a boyfriend already.And he said hope you have a good life and  happy future ,i will not trouble you from now on.......
    That's my history,i cant forgot it.Sometimes i recalled this feeling,not love,just like only.But when i thought it i feel sorry about him,i dont konw whether he find his love,maybe he got married with sb or had a lovely baby.Of course,i wish he and his family.
    Was it my reason of break up?Maybe not,i just want to speak my feeling about break up by this topic.Now i am happy with my boyfriend,that last thing was not true first love for me,but i took it as mine.Always we say,like is not love,but it's our truely feeling in deep heart.
    If have brook up before,please take care of your now love.If your love is dangerous about it,please talk a good reason,dont hurt anyone.No matter what  the result is,please cherish your life,love and lover.We must thanks for God or destiny give us the chance to meet our love and other side,we need to do everything for her or him by our best and heart.
    Ok,thanks a lot for everyone gives me support in Aiciba.Thanks owner give me encourage and i will study harder everyday.Hope my friends--you have a nice time everyday.
最后由 另心如止水 于 2008-12-03 11:24:39编辑

Good Morning…
什么是你最无法接受的“分手理由”？What kind of ‘break up reason’ is most unacceptable for you?

Actually, any break-up reason is harmful for everyone, no matter who put forward the break-up, due to having loved each other ever, but need to break up as some cause.

For me to say, I can not accept the break-up reason is that the other side left to me without any words, like vanishing from the earth. This is an irresponsible conduct for him. This will make me painful very much, and torture to me, if I love him at that time. Since I will worry about him, and think of what happen to him and so on. I don’t like what he would like at all.

I can accept that he tell me our character is not fitting, since I think man and woman can be together, due to their suitability in lives and communication. If the character is not suitable, it is hard to communicate and live together for each other, and their love feeling will be die away one day. Or maybe you can try to change your character to temper, but sometimes this will make you more painful. Yes, I had this experience before, my loved boy felt that I am not his right girl due to we have not common view and our living’s surrounding is different. I was hurt at that time but can not do anything, I chose to accept. After calming down for a time, I duly understand he is correct, it will be not happy for us in the future if we are together reluctantly.

I believe that I can find out my Mr. right who can understand me – I am a simple girl, if love me, don’t try to change me….

Hope everyone can find out the perfect person who belongs to you.

最后由 BonnieFang 于 2008-12-03 16:15:16编辑

no sofa~~~~~~~~~~, only floor

什么是你最无法接受的“分手理由”？
What kind of ‘break up reason’ is most unacceptable for you?

For me, maybe going away with no word is the most unacceptable way to break up. There must be some reason to end a serious relationship, so why don't tell him or her, even in an indirect way? Unless, you two both feel that there's no need to keep hunging out. There'll be no reason to explain.

I don't think he or she loves another one is such an unacceptable reason. Anyway, no one could be sure himself or herself will never change his/her idea. If you ask yourself this question, are you so sure about that? In my opinion, the words like I'll love you forever or some words like this are all stimulate. (I don't mean that there's no significance to speak like this between lovers. I just want to say we should never take these words seriously. And just smiling back to him/her is enough.) So some day if some body says breaking up with me and the reason is he loves others, maybe I can accept this and may him happy. Everyone has there own right to chase what they really want. So if this really happened on me someday, I also hope he can understand this and forgive me.

There are also other kinds of reasons which cause you break up, for instance some reasons around you. What if one of familles don't agree? What if you two's combining cannot be accepted by the moral rule which exists invisibly in the society? Can you accept that?

Love is such a complicate thing, as well as marrage. Maybe the most acceptable reason to avoid from getting hurt from love is just never falling in love ~~
最后由 yjlyf 于 2008-12-03 10:45:34编辑

morning

哪一种“分手理由”是你最无法接受的？ What kind of ‘break up reason’ is most unacceptable for you?

What kind of "break up reason" is most unacceptable for me? Once i saw the topic ,i asked to myself about this question spantoneously.

Recalling the past time my boyfriend and me spend together,we have stayed for more or less six years since from university.He is not only the first boyfriend  but also the last one ,of course that is not absolute,but at least till now i will not change my idea.Six years !Oh my god ,how quick the time flipped! when  i talk about that ,i often have a feeling of pride.After all there are not many persons like us.Sometimes someone play a kidding like this:"you are so unluky ,as you havent the chance to stay with someone else." Every time heard this ,i always brust into laughing. Maybe to a certain extent ,i really unluky for i dont know how i will feel when staying with others ,is it nice or  misery? That is hard to see.So i cant bet on myself,anyway, i treat my boyfriend as serious as he does.He is already becoming a part of my life.

Back to this topic ,there are diverse reasons when someone wanna break up with you,such as unsuitable ,loving someones else ,disappearing from the world and so forth.Among these execuses ,it seems to be unacceptable for me that he vanished forever after he simply told me to part.If i encounted this situation,i would be a bit happy,even if at first i also were both angry and hurt. Why i were angry and hurt,the reason is so simple that everyone can unstand.But mentioning the happiness, this maybe surprise you.So in the next i explant that for you.In my view ,i think this behavior is unresponsible for us two .maybe it is advisable to leave him.If i was he ,i will say clearly to him and what i think about ,and we can make friends in spite of not being the lovers.my boyfriend often asked me that: if we apart ,can we become good friends?" Frankly speaking ,there is only a little possiablity,for it is really too hard,at least ,i think so. Last time ,he told me something that :one day ,his roomrate chatted together with him ,and my boyfriend asked him when he would be get marriaged for he was already 30 ,at this age we should consider the marriagenmet,morover he is getting along well with his grilfriend whom i met her only once.To his surprise,however, he said he didnt plan to marriry with her and dont know when will be married.She is just the an amatorial object.it is apposible universal thinking.but i think it is not an responsible behavior,even not for himself . Staying with your lover before marriage,we can understand with each other well ,and know our character  in order to get well after marriage.So we should cherish the wonderful and necessory time for our future.Maybe after spending a period of time ,we will be find we arent suitable at all ,of course ,we can broke up readily,not vashing from the world .

Disappearing is not a good beahvior ,when you meet this ,you neednt to be hurt ,but to be happy ,for he is so responsible for you two ,and easily to think ,he will do like this when encounting other things .So from this way ,you maybe  a little luck to this extent.

Above all ,this is just my opinion. Opinions are diverse with people who give the ideas .So there is not a absolute answer.



最后由 kittyjia 于 2008-12-03 13:57:50编辑

What kind of ‘break up reason’ is most unacceptable for you?
Regarding this topic,I think if i really love him,whatever the reason he gives,i will be very unacceptable.however,i eventually will be facing this reality,no matter how sad i would be.because we all know that one can't love to order.but,if he just never meet like vanishing from this earth,which equals to giving  no reson.if this is the way he  expresses to break up,that really make me the most unacceptable.whatever it takes,whether is incompatible in disposition or loves someone else,there must be one particular reason should be given,which could at least let me know he doesnt love me any more.~~


最后由 悠悠白云 于 2008-12-03 20:08:58编辑

good morning!
This topic was interesting! when he didn't love me at all and had another lover, i would choose part.when i felt terrible with him, i would give up the love.
最后由 为自己加油吧 于 2008-12-03 16:57:19编辑

moring
break up reason:
I don't love you any more. I can't stay beside you with my heart far from you.
最后由 stella 于 2008-12-03 09:45:08编辑

Morning all。。。

I am lucky that only once I have no idear for the topic

Morning~~

Morning.
Interesting topic,from my opinion,I suppose the biggest reason that I can't receive is we're in different world at all.Cause this reason means he is heartless and don't know what is the love and the responsibility.
As to myself,I have a happy and romantic love experience with my boyfriend now.We're classmates in middle-school.Although two places,two unversities.We insist on our love and emotion.We're together about 4years.We have quarrel，we said someting bad and sad to each other.We're in a reasonless suitation.In normal life,everyone konws that characters are definitely different.Anyway,love need patience,understanding,communicating with your lovers.If the boy said you're in two world to be a break up reason,please leave right now.Believe me that there're a better man waiting for you at next station.
Wish everyone own a sweet love story.Best regards.

Maybe she said nothing,or no reason!

什么是你最无法接受的“分手理由”？
What kind of ‘break up reason’ is most unacceptable for you?


Breaking up with lovers is bitterly, whatever the reasons are, the hurt you bring your lover is beyond imaginary, another situation is you two don’t love each other any more, parting is the best way. Once you hold her hand, don’t give up easily.

From friends/strangers to lovers, we undergo sweetness and dispute, the love gradually becomes familial affection, there are more care and responsibility between lovers, we are habituated to each other, just like we brush teeth everyday, if one day you are prohibited to brush, what’s your feeling? You must be very embarrassed, so if your lover leaves you, you must be angry first, then be sad, someone may try to patch it up, some may give up.

About the unbearable reason, I think it’s the man/woman doesn’t speak it out in person, I hate craven, this is the irresponsible behavior, when you love, you try your best to say these sweet words, when facing part, why do you escape? We can be friends since we break up, though it needs enough courage, now many people would like to be friends if they can’t be lovers.

We all have love stories, I think before marriage we at least experience once-love, it lays foundation in terms of later marriage life, I once heard: once-love ruins a boy but trains a man, man knows how to love and pity his girl, that’s why mature man is likely to attract girls, but we also should keep natural character, then life will be full of fun.

最后由 小王贵 于 2008-12-03 13:30:50编辑

     If I have to break up with my lover, the reason I hate most is that my boyfriend loves someone else. I hate betrayal.  
            
             Perhaps people will be sad when he or she has to end a relationship with his or her lover, however if the reason is there exists a third one, most people will not only feel sad but also feel angry. Love means mutual respect and trust as well as loyalty, so if my boyfriend cheat on me and fall in love with other, I will feel insulted and never forgive him.
            
             With regard to the betrayal in love, some people may think it is hard to deicide which part is right or wrong in a love relationship, so if your lover falls in love with other , there is no need to critize her or him. However as for me, if you have a lover, you need more self-dicipline, you must behave yourself on the basis of responsibility. Since you are no longer single, there must be a certain distance between you and other peopleof the opposite sex. What I mean is not you should stay away from all people of the opposite sex but you must hold the degree of the contacts between you and them. To some extent, I am confused, why nowadays there are so many betrayal in love.
   However, love is complicated, so there may be various kinds of reasons result in the ending of each period of love. For example, incompatible in personality or love fades unconciously. Sometimes it is just beyond our control. So it is really a great courage to break up with your lover, any away you two have enjoyed a wonderful time together, it will be a really hard time breaking up you're your lover, whenever looking back into that love period you will feel sad. So like a popular saying on the net, once hand in hand, value it and never break up easily.

最后由 tmlSweet 于 2008-12-03 16:42:53编辑

I unacceptable just never meet ,vanishing from the earth...

...just never meet, like vanishing from the earth.
最后由 爬着也要走 于 2008-12-03 10:00:12编辑

me too,我最最讨厌这种人，什么也不说，找他电话也不听，玩失踪，讨厌死了